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Okay, I just visited a blogger friend who was sharing about her daughter’s boyfriend’s 4th failed driving test and in my post it came out, “Bless His Heart!”…I’m a southern girl and just couldn’t help it. But as soon as I sent it I started laughing because I remembered this story. Someone once noted that a Southerner can get away with the most awful kind of insult just as long as it’s prefaced with the words “Bless her heart” or “Bless his heart”.  As in, “Bless his heart”, if they put his brain on the head of a pin, it’d roll around like a BB on a six-lane highway.” Or, “Bless her heart, she’s so bucktoothed, she could eat an apple through a picket fence.” There are also the sneakier ones that I remember from tongu-clucking types of my childhood. “You know, it’s amazing that even though, she had that baby seven months after they got married, “bless her heart“, it weighed 10 pounds. As long as the heart is sufficiently blessed, the insult can’t be all that bad. At least that’s what my Great-Aunt Tiny (bless her heart she was anything but) used to say. I was thinking about this the other day when a friend was telling me about her new northern friend who was upset because her toddler is just beginning to talk and he has a southern accent. My friend, who is very kind and, bless her heart cannot do a thing about those thighs of hers, so doesn’t even start, was justifiably miffed about this. After all, this woman had CHOSEN to move south a couple of years ago. “Can you believe it?” she said to my friend. “A child of mine is going to be taaaallllkkin’ a-liiiike thiiiissss.” I can think of far worse fates than speaking Southern for this adorable little boy, who, bless his heart must surely be the East Coast king of mucus. I wish I’d been there. I would have said that she shouldn’t fret, because there is nothing so sweet or pleasing on the ear as a soft, Southern drawl. Of course, maybe we shouldn’t be surprised at her “carryings on.” After all, when you come from a part of the world where “family silver refers to the large medallion around Uncle Vinnie’s neck, you just have to, as Aunt Tiny would say, “consider the source.” Now don’t get me wrong. Some of my dearest friends are from the North, bless their hearts. I welcome their perspective, their friendships, and their recipes for authentic northern Italian food. I’ve even gotten past their endless complaints that you can’t find good bread down here. The ones who really gore my ox are the native Southerners who have begun to act almost embarrassed about their speech. It’s as if they want to bury it in the “Hee Haw” cornfield. We’ve already lost too much. I was raised to swanee, not swear, but you hardly ever hear anyone say that anymore, I swanee you don’t. And I’ve caught myself thinking twice before saying something is “right much,” “right close” or “right good” because non-natives think this is right funny indeed. I have a friend from Bawston who thinks it’s hilarious when I say I’ve got to “carry” my daughter to the doctor or “cut off” the light or “I’m fixin’ to” That’s OK. It’s when you have to explain things to people who were born here that I get mad as a mule eating bumblebees. The most grating example is found in restaurants and stores where nice, magnolia-mouthed clerks now say “you guys” instead of “y’all,” as their mamas raised them up to say. I’d sooner wear white shoes in February, drink unsweetened tea and eat Miracle Whip instead of Duke’s than utter the words, “you guys.” Not long ago, I went to lunch with four female friends, and the waiter, a nice Southern boy, “you guys”-ed all of us within an inch of our lives. You guys ready to order? What can I get for you guys? Would you guys like to keep you guys’ forks?” Lord, Have Mercy! It’s a little comforting that, at the very same time some natives are so eager to blend in They’ve taken to making microwave grits–an abomination.) the rest of the world is catching on that it’s cool to be Clampett. How else do you explain NASCAR tracks and Krispy Kreme doughnut franchises springing up like yard onions all over the country? To those of you who are still a little embarrassed by your Southernness. take two tent revivals and a dose of redeye gravy and call me in the morning. Bless Your Heart !!! |
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 I’m going to have some coffee. That should help. 
 Although three of them are step children, they have custody and have them at home the majority of the time. So this makes the 5th child in their household between the ages of newborn and 13. Bless her!
